some friday ramblings: proposal videos, skirts, the time magazine cover, + more.

Friday, June 1, 2012


+ i don't like being referred to as ''sweetie.''  pet names in general aren't my thing.  particularly by men or by people my own age.  i mean, i really don't like it.  i'm kind of surprised at how much i chafe against it, in fact.  YOU'VE BEEN WARNED.  next time it happens, ima slap somebody.

+ i trust you've all seen this video by now.  for the love of god, if you haven't, watch it immediately.
and if isaac and his fiance happen upon my blog, PLEASE INVITE ME TO YOUR WEDDING.

+ some of you asked about my skirt in this post.  i tried to find it, but alas, could not!  though, i'm digging sooo many of forever 21's a-line skirts this season (where i got mine!).  here's a few more favorites.

1 // 2 // 3

+ i don't like when store cashiers ask, all blasé-like, "what's your e-mail address?" as you finish making your purchase.  not, "can we have your e-mail address so we can put you on our 'we-send-you-shit-you-don't-want-too-often list?"  i mean, they should be asking if you'd like to get on that list instead of acting all 'gimme your e-mail' as some prerequisite to handing you your shopping bag.

+ on twitter yesterday i caught wind of a les miserables movie coming out next winter!  starring anne hathaway, russell crowe, and hugh jackman.  this makes my classical-loving husband very happy.  you want to see the trailer?

+ a couple of you asked my take on the time magazine cover.  i know!  old news at this point.  nevertheless here's what i have to say: to each his own.  i don't care that she's still breastfeeding her older son (in fact, i checked out her blog and she seems like a pretty down-to-earth mama.  did you know she adopted a boy from africa and breastfed him too?  whatever you think about her, that is pretty cool.).  what i do care about is how they portrayed it.  him standing on a stool, her hand-on-hip stance, the incendiary title "are you mom enough?"  to be sure, their nursing is far more nurturing and intimate than the photographer showed.  but, i get it, they wanted to sell magazines.  whatever.  but here's a question:  when will the media stop trying to pit women against each other?


and that is all.

have a fabulous weekend.  i mean it!

29 comments:

  1. oh my gosh-just sobbing watching that wedding proposal-sobbing.

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  2. I hate the pet names, too- it took me a LONG time to not bristle up when older English men call me "love", "bird", and "pet". ARGH. I still get rather terse in reply, but I no longer attempt to telepathically kick them in the balls. At least, not if their tone isn't creepy.
    Have a great weekend!

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  3. Teary from the proposal, smiling at the patronizing little name thing. Hate that. I'm a nurse, and I can't tell you how many dirty-old-men-patients try to get away with it. Yuck.

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  4. a-mazing proposal. oh my god. TEARS!!!

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  5. I will fight someone who asks me for my email at checkout. Seriously, ask Chloe. We were basically denied service once because I wouldn't give them my phone number. WTF. I still get mad about it.

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  6. amen about the e-mail thing. so obnoxious. and yes, that proposal. so so sweet. i love her reactions the whole time too :)

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  7. I was feeling really eh about this Les Mis movie coming out because it's so near and dear to my heart (I'm obsessed with the theatre version. it's true) but watching this little teaser trailer makes me feel actually kind of excited. so yeah.

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  8. Did you ever stop to think that a cashier asking you for your email address is less blaisé and moreso just doing what's required of them? What you're not noticing is that persons boss lurking nearby, ready to reprimand them if they don't ask you. A little holier than thou to make it seem like it's the cashier themselves, clamoring to get their hands on your email, don't you think? Saying no politely works just as well, if not better than seething through your teeth (or perhaps even more publicly, your blog). The same way there's a stereotype about women working in retail being uneducated and untalented, there's one about stay at home mothers being entitled bitches. I work hard to not perpetuate the stereotype about my field of work, and until now, I thought you did the same for yours.

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  9. According to the blog you linked (about breastfeeding), the woman adopted her son when he was FOUR. Surely it's not normal to START breastfeeding a four year old. I mean....really?

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  10. wow, that proposal is AMAZING. I'm sobbing at my desk. How special! And yes, I'd love to be at that wedding too!

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  11. Bridget, I'm a new blog follower and I appreciate your opinions and your real-ness. After all, this is your space to express your opinions isn't it? As far as the video - I die. The TIME cover - to each his own but I do agree that it's a little too "in your face" and as for the cashier debacle - their politeness will reflect mine. If they are rude, I don't feel the need to reciprocate with kindness - boss lurking or not. Also, the skirts, so fab.

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  12. Great food for thought- when WILL the media stop pitting woman against each other? Pinterest is the worst about that particularly. Drives me bonkers.

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  13. I love the proposal video! It was so cute it almost made me cry!

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  14. my only question is: according to her blog (and an interview of hers i watched online), her "baby boy just turned three". how is that a 3 year old??? while i am certainly no mother, i have nannied/babysat children of all ages and i have a really hard time believing that that child is 3.

    enough of that. back to bachelorette site stalking.

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  15. I'm sending that video to my soon-to-be-engaged brother-in-law, telling him not to let anyone out-proposal him. {Did that sentence make sense?}

    Usually when someone asks me for me for my e-mail address at checkout I tell them I don't have one, because I'm all non-confrontational like that. I'll get a look like "seriously?" but I'd rather have them think I'm 10 years behind the times/homeless than awkwardly spell out my e-mail address and then have to mark their messages as spam.

    Finally, I completely agree with you about the Time cover. I don't judge her for breastfeeding her kids for forever {especially since she does it because she believes it's what's best for them}, I don't judge her for how Time marketed the issue, and I don't think her son will be scarred for life. When will the media stop trying to plot women against each other? Very good question. In reading people's reactions to the cover, I was surprised how offended some seemed to be by the fact that she was "attractive" -- like that sexualized breastfeeding her son.

    Loving your blog, btw.

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  16. well sweetie...just kidding! but really on that email thing I always say 'you already have it and I'm not giving it to you again". They can totally bypass that crap!

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  17. and wow, you surely ticked another commenter off today. Didn't you? LOL! I didn't take what you said bad. I think they should ASK politely like "would you like to be added to our list" and not just say "what's your number, address, email, etc?

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  18. Ok that proposal seriously made me choke up and tear! I really wasnt expecting to be so touched by total strangers but that was the sweetest cutest thing ever! I loved it! The amount of work he must have put into that, now that shows love, no to mention it shows love from each and every friend that had to practice who knows how many times! I bet she felt sooo loved and happy that night! I am so glad they recorded it not just so we can all see but so she can watch it over and over!

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  19. That proposal is just gorgeous! I have tears!

    Katie- www.mummydaddyandmemakesthree.co.uk

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  20. AMEN sista on "when will the emdia stop plotting women against each other" ... for reals.

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  21. Tears. watch this one!

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xTea-AaGBgw

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  22. Totally agree with you on your Time opinion. Also, those skirts are super cute!

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  23. Another one bawling here watching the proposal video! So special...how great that they'll have that recorded to show their kids and grandkids someday.

    Don't really care for the Time cover...mamas who tend to be overly confrontational about their parenting choices seem insecure to me. Will anyone who doesn't agree with/want to bf past one year likely change their mind about it based on this article? I can't imagine that would be the case. Extended bfing is fine...why not just do it in the comfort of your home if that is what you choose to do? Why the need to debate it or put it on a magazine cover? A child of that age is surely getting most of his nutritional needs met from solid foods and isn't nursing very frequently or publicly? I can only imagine that the woman's son might someday be appalled that he was breastfeeding at age 3 on the cover of Time magazine. It seems a little insensitive and exploitative toward the son, in my opinion.

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  24. @jessielee, wow. i had no idea so much could be taken from my little rant on email up there. my guess is, if you heard my tone, you wouldn't have been offended (it was quite tongue-in-cheek). but, that's a blog for you. tone is lost on the reader. for the record, i worked retail (as recently as one year ago), and i also do give a polite 'no thanks' when asked to give my email address. i don't think i implied retail workers are uneducated (though, i do think you implied stay at home moms are bitches... i guess i'm just an all around bitch though because i didn't like giving my email long before i was a stay at home mom).

    @meghann, YES. that is a bit old to START breastfeeding--i'd agree with you there.

    @mary, i love that you say you don't have one. i'm trying that in the future.

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  25. Oh my gosh - I LOVED that proposal. (And I totally teared up as well!)

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  26. Yes! I feel the same about being demanded to hand over my email! Anymore I say, "no thanks." as if they gave me the option to turn them down.

    As for the Time mag cover. I think the title is totally ridiculous, I nursed my kid till he was 9 months, once those teeth started coming in as early as two months I couldn't handle it anymore! I wanted my boobs back:) 9 months was as far as i could go! just bc I didn't bf till my kid could verbalized he wants to suck on my boob doesn't mean I'm not mom enough;) for me, it's weird how they did the cover, kinda in your face a lil too much? My take anyway:) I read some of her blog, I agree, pretty down to earth, I'm sure she prob didn't have a lot of control over the way the cover was done but I dont think I would have done it simply for the fact that what you said is right," when will the media stop pitting women against one another." my thoughts anyway;)

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  27. Couldn't agree with you more on the Time cover. We need to support each other. We're each doing what we feel is right for OUR kid.

    I loved that proposal and the "Dancing Jews" cracked me up!

    Look on your tube for Proposal Movie Trailer (by Mattandginny) talk about tearing up!! I am a sucker for those things! :)

    Great blog by the way...glad I found you!

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  28. I love the last thing you said "When will the media stop trying to pit women against each other?" I'm almost done with a Master's Thesis on this very topic, but related to Disney. It's discouraging!

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